Very well said marriages are made in heaven, but celebrated on planet “earth”.
The above statement is very well said,
experienced and felt by almost all the mankind. Different times have brought
different definitions of the term “marriage”. According to some it is something
for which one should not go but according to some, one should definitely go for
it. Either way round most of the people go for it with the perception that if
one has to repent whether marries or not, so why not tasting this “bundi laddu”
and then regret.
Marriages are the events, where families
exchange their views culture, see growth and the perspectives. An event which
bring the families together for celebrations, reunions and performing different
cultural activities. Whatever the social status is, high, low or middle at the
end of the day it is a festive season for the families. For many it is a dream
comes true. A fun time, which has alittle mischief, drama, romance and nostalgia. A status to flaunt on the
social networking sites, social outings and more over an emotional security felt within the individual.
Different cultures come up with different
wedding rituals and customs. Now, so far people in most of the cases are aware
of three kinds of marriages; one is arranged marriage, then love marriage and
since nowadays parents and families’ acceptance have advanced so we have
love-arranged marriages too on the platter, where both partners and families
agree.
There is a new term in the
marriage, called “open marriages”, where both partners agree to the terms
considering the time and requirements that anyone can walk off the marriage if
wants to, so there is less mess, individuals being strong and mature when it
comes to separation or in legal terms we call it as divorce. Such people marry for themselves, for their lives to be
spent with the person of their choice. May be they are in the marriage trap
because of the family pressures and social concerns. But at the end of the day, such marriages exists and most of these are kept hidden by the
families and the kids at home because society still does not count on such
marriages, to them these do not exists. But they do exist, somewhere.
Timings have evolved and so the definitions
of rituals too. According to some it is a ritual which needs to be performed to
take the generation ahead, which is true of course. For some it is a big social responsibility,
which is to be performed sooner or later may be sometimes for parents and for
sometimes for socialising too. But in the present time, marriage is not a
pre-requisite to make the generation “go ahead”. There are many in the
present times, who say it is a legal license to have sex and get intimate.
No matter where you marry and with whom, what matters
is your happiness, stability and trust with life partner.
